Self-love: Is it a requirement?

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Self-love is not a new trend or hippy or yoga related ideal. Self-love is a requirement for one to achieve their goals in life. Without true self love and appreciation, there can be no real happiness. So, what is self-love exactly?

 

Self-love is accepting yourself, exactly as you are right now. That is not saying to yourself, “Oh, I’ll love myself when I am 10 pounds, 20 pounds or even 100 pounds lighter.” That is not self-love. Self-love is loving who you are, right now. Self-love is looking past your flaws and accepting yourself anyway.

 

Self-love is knowing your worth and enforcing it in your relationships. What this translates to is not accepting or participating in toxic relationships. This is a huge problem for most people. People make excuses for the ones they love. You will often hear, “Oh, she’s like that”, or “Once you get to know him, he is nice”. These are excuses to still participate in a toxic relationship. Self-love would require that if you truly love yourself, you will separate yourself from those friendships.

 

Self-love is falling in love with you. It is possible to fall in love with yourself. It is ideal according to the Buddhist teachings, in fact. Think about it this way, when you fall in love with someone, you love everything about them. You vow to care for them. You will fight for them. You will do whatever it takes to be there for them and make time for them. Now, put that into practice for yourself. Do all those things not for someone else, but for YOU.

 

Self-love is a requirement to be successful in losing weight. One thing many overweight and obese people have in common is they do not love themselves. If they truly did love themselves, they would not feed themselves in such a way, they gain so much weight. In fact, being morbidly obese in a very real sense, is slowly killing yourself. That is not self-love, in fact it is self-hatred.

 

To practice self-love, first you must be kind to yourself. Learn to be your own best friend. Accept your flaws as part of what make you a unique, amazing person. Most of all, do not be afraid to praise yourself. Many people are in the habit of when receiving a compliment, they refuse to accept it. Learn to accept compliments.  To go a step further, learn to compliment yourself without feeling guilt. If you follow these practices, you will learn to love yourself, genuinely, allowing your true potential to be unlocked.Image

The Top 20 Super Foods to Achieve Amazing Weight Loss

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The new mantra for all those looking to shed a few pounds is ‘Eat more, Weigh less’. This way of eating is simple, you eat more super foods, and less processed junk foods, along with keeping up your activity level up to stimulate your metabolism and reduce food cravings. It’s an easy way to eat, simply pick a few of the super foods, and indulge in them. The 20 common super foods are apples, eggs,  kale, blueberries, tomatoes, nuts, orange juice, fish, broccoli, spinach, green tea, chlorella, cinnamon, brown rice, carrots, soy milk,  oatmeal, avocado, chocolate  and coffee.  If in your area, you cannot find chlorella, it is available in powder form at the whole foods grocery retailer, usually. A few of this amazing super foods is discussed further, below.

 

Apples

 Ever hear the saying, ‘An apple a day, keeps the doctor an away.’ An apple a day will keep weight gain away. Studies suggest those who eat an apple as a snack before a meal, will eat less in their meal and crave less junk food. If you are in need of something sweet, chop an apple, and add all spice and cinnamon. Microwave it for about one minute. It will taste like apple pie filling, fulfilling any sweet tooth. 

 

Eggs

 Eggs are such a controversial food. One day, research supports eating them, the next they are demoted to a bad food, again. Rest assured you can eat the whole egg, yes even the yolk. Research has concluded that eggs can help you shred inches off your waist. Scrambled, fried, or hard-boiled, eggs are always the perfect snack or meal.

 

Kale

 Kale is one of the veggies getting a lot of publicity lately. It grew popular in the juice-craze. It has a taste that is similar to broccoli. One cup of kale has only 34 calories with 1.3 grams of fiber. It is one of those foods, you can eat and eat. It can be added to fresh juice, salads or baked to make kale chips.

 

Blueberries

 Blueberries are not only great tasting, but good for you. They are good for men or women, being in the top ten super foods. They have the most antioxidants of all the commercial available fruits, if that is not impressive enough, they also pack an astonishing 3.5 grams of fiber per cup. Blueberries can be eaten by themselves, added to oatmeal, which is another super food, or added to a juice or smoothie.

 

Avocado

 Many people shy away from avocados, because of their fat content. They do have 29 grams fat per serving; however, it is good fat. You need the fat in an avocado. Avocados are considered one of the foods that help you lose weight. There are so many ways to eat an avocado. You can eat it in cubes like another other fruit, or chopped in a veggie salad. Another option is to mash it and use it on a sandwich, instead of mayo. Weight loss experts recommend you eat a few avocados a week, but to watch the portion sizes. The avocado is a high calorie food.

 These foods are the proven super foods. They have been used by both men and women, with amazing results. These foods specifically will encourage weight loss. They will give your body the nutrition it needs, to achieve maximum fat loss. A diet rich in these foods, will yield amazing results, allowing your body to be lean and completely healthy. How do add super foods in your diet? Have they helped you shed the excess weight?

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Struggling to love me every day

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Today, I stepped on the scale for the first time in months. I wasn’t prepared for what I saw…209 pounds. How could I have gained over four pounds? I thought I was mostly tracking my calories. Sure I was eating more cake, cookies and other junk foods than usual, but still four pounds. It was time to reassess.

I am not okay with being overweight for the rest of my life. I have sweated, cried and often felt powerless sin my weight loss journey. There is no way I will not reach my goal. It sparked something amazing in me, and I felt a determination I haven’t felt since 2011.

I had the urge to clean out my Facebook friends to cut the unsupportive people. I didn’t yet, but I might. I felt encouraged and inspired by the fact I have lost 82 pounds. That is amazing. EIGHTY TWO POUNDS. If I would try to lift 82 pounds right now, I am betting I would have a hard time, and that was my extra weight!

I struggle a lot with feeling shunned by my past mommy friends. I feel less than them a lot of the time. I am an outcast, because I am outspoken and my own person. I have come to terms with who I am. I am okay with not having best friends to talk about my little kids about with. I am not okay with online drama and being lied about, so being alone without the mommy friends is so much better.

I have come to a place where I want to help others. I want to tell that mom who feels helpless, “you can do this, I will be your friend while we both figure it out”.  I do not buy that ANY woman doesn’t care about her weight. I was morbidly obese once. I cared. I avoided mirrors. I made fat jokes. I avoided talking to other moms at school. I constantly felt less than. There is a better way.

The answer is so simple. It’s so simple that I never even thought of it all those years. In order to lose weight, you have to value yourself enough to invest in yourself, in other words: love yourself. Loving yourself is not easy at times. We tend to be our worst critics. When you finally do love yourself, you will be able to lose the weight, enforce respect in your relationships and value yourself in everything you do.  

My goal for this month is to lose 10 pounds. I want to reach oneunderland once again. 199 is my goal for Jan. 1st.  What are your goals for the month?  

This month I will talk about relationships, food and exercise routines. Image

Mother’s need to let go of being selfish

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We, mothers, say this so often. We do not want to be selfish by taking care of yourself. We do not want to take time to ourselves because it takes time away from our children. We wrongly translate any time away from our kids to be selfish time. It is the opposite in reality.

I did not take ANY time away from my kids for 12 years. I lived and breathed being a mom. My kids ate perfectly. They had very healthy foods. I, however, did not eat well. I probably ate about 500 grams of carbohydrates on a daily basis.

When I started putting me first, amazing things happened. The first thing that happened was I started valuing myself. I would not allow my family to disrespect me. Instead of, when arguing with my husband of feeling like garbage, I learned my worth. This allowed me to say, “No, you cannot talk or treat me this way”.

I let go of guilt.

Oh, guilt is a nasty volatile emotion. I’d feel guilty for not exercising or eating well, which led to a binge, which led to feeling bad, etc. When I let go of the guilt and allowed myself to just be amazing things happened. I learned I was a good writer. I am not a perfect writer, no. I may not be an excellent writer, even. I do write from my heart, and do want others to benefit from my experiences. Writing is my passion.

Find an activity you enjoy

This is huge. I spent two years torturing myself with exercise videos. I hate videos. I think Jillian Michaels is mean. I finished P90X, but I hated every single second of it. A few months ago, I found my passion: Swimming. I love to swim. I feel no impact. I love to run, but struggle with shin splints. I am working on learning all the strokes in swimming and improving my speed. I look forward to swimming. I plan on learning to play racquetball and tennis this month as well.

 

Mothers should never feel guilty about putting their health first. If we are not healthy, how can we care for our families. Being a healthy mom in fact, is the best gift you can give your children.   Image